a young woman's experience with anxiety

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Dr. Claire Weekes: Anxiety Angel

Dr. Claire Weekes has been my “anxiety angel” since I discovered her in 2009, when I was facing all sorts of issues — really hard life stuff as well as emotional issues. Her book, “Hope and Help for Your Nerves,” is an older but unpretentious and refreshingly simple (simple doesn’t mean easy, though) way to deal with anxiety and depression. Here are some nuggets from the book! She was a brilliant lady. ❤

Dos and Don’ts

1. Do not run away from fear. Analyze it and see it as no more then physical feelings. Feelings are not facts, do not be bluffed.

2. Accept all strange sensations connected with your illness. Do not
fight them. Float past them. Recognize that they are temporary.

3. Let there be no self-pity.

4. Settle your problems as quickly as you can, if not with action, then by glimpsing and accepting a new point of view.

5. Waste no time on “What might have been” and “If only…”

6. Face sorrow and know that time will bring relief.

7. Be occupied. Do not lie in bed brooding. Be occupied calmly , not feverishly trying to forget yourself.

8. Remember that the strength in a muscle may depend on the confidence with which it is used.

9. Accept your obsessions and be prepared to live with them
temporarily. Do not fight them by trying to push them away. Let time do

10. Remember your recovery does not necessarily depend “entirely on
you” as so many ppeople are so ready to tell you. You may need help.
Accept it willingly, without shame.

11. Do not measure your progress day by day. Don’t count the months,
years you have been ill and despair at the thought of them. Once you
are on the right road to recovery, recovery is inevitable, however
protracted your illness may have been.

12. Remember withdrawal is your jailer. Recovery lies on the other side of panic. Recovery lies in places you fear.

13. Do not be discouraged if you cannot make decisions while you are ill. When you are well, decisions will be more easily made.

14. Never accept total defeat. It is never too late to give yourself another chance.

15. Practice don’t test.

16. Face. Accept. Float. Let time pass.

If you do this, you WILL recover.



i’m 22.

i’ve been living with diagnosed anxiety for 11 years now, but i’ve dealt with it my entire life. obsessions, compulsions, panic attacks, stomachaches, headaches, weird thoughts — you name it, i’ve been through it.

anxiety is a part of me i’ve come to accept. when i didn’t accept it, i hid it. but hiding something doesn’t make it go away. it’s there, anyway, whether i accept it or not.

it’s not my fault. i don’t ask for these symptoms, they just happen. i’ve come to realize that, in my case, it really is like having a thyroid problem or having diabetes. it’s chronic and i have good days and bad days.

i didn’t always think that way. i used to just blame me. i took full responsibility, and that only led to perfectionism. i’m done being a perfectionist…i’m too human for that.

i’ve hated myself because of the anxiety. it’s contributed to me missing, or simply not being able to enjoy, many of life’s milestones.

fortunately, i have a survivor mentality. i want a better life and will do what i can to get that life. it’s going to be harder for me, but so be it, that’s just the way it is.

hopefully, this post will let someone out there know that they’re not alone.

much more to come.